PERSONALS

AUGUST 20, 1993

GAY PEOPLE'S CHRONICLE

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Gay Men

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GWM, 24, 5'11, 155, intelligent, educated, struggling writer, looking for friendship/relationship with sensitive, caring, similarly built individual, 25-30. Interests include film, theater, music, literature, dancing. If you know who Pet Shop Boys or Richard O'Brien are, don't hesitate... 1829

GBM, 29 handsome, 5'8, medium/muscular build college-educated, masculine, smoker. Enjoys reading, working out, ballet, opera, all music except rap, traveling, am artistic. Am easygoing quiet, shy, and affectionate guy. Tired of being alone and seeking masculine GM's with similar/varied interests for friendship/relationship 1830

GWM, 40, 5'10, 180, blue eyed, good looking, seeking safe active top for fun, day or night. Bi or GWM mature 30's to young 50's. Westside. 1832

GWM, 30, blonde, moustache, razor stubble, 6'2, 220lbs, broad shoulders, hairy chest, muscular legs, very good-looking, masculine, likes cars and men who wear high tops or boots, drink and smoke, no preppies or fems. 1838

GWM, 39, 5'9, 148#, Seeks GBM and GM. I'm quiet affectionate, bottom or top, not a bar person. Live on eastside, looking for friend/lover. Down to earth sincere guys for fun and frolic. Call or write, all answered. ♪ 1839

GWM, 44, 6'2, 200lbs. I'm old-fashioned, old movies, good music, conversation and I love to laugh! I'm seeking GWM 30-40 who knows what I mean. Lets meet and share our lives and love!

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GWM, 30, 6', 160#, educated, serious, irritable complainer, average looking; into classical music, working out, happy hour, watching TV, being invited over for dinner! Looking for thin, handsome younger guy with sunny disposition and intense sexual desire for fun, friendship, more. Cleveland area. Send letter.

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Dear Dr. Ruby:

GWM seeks GWM must be a top man. Erotic and extremely kinky with the right person. I am 32, good looking, 160lbs. Letter, phone# for reply. 1846

BM, 22 yrs old, 180lbs. A New York kind of guy trapped in Cleveland! Looking for someone who is worldly, intelligent, into books, art, underground music, and foreign films. (NO TOP 40 QUEENS) send photo & telephone number. 1847

Looking to make some new friends. And hope to find that special guy. GWM, 35, 5'9, 147lbs., brown hair and brown eyes. I am serious minded, but love to have fun too seeking secure clean cut mature GWM, 18-38 yrs. old. Honest and committed only.

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GBM, 38, 5'10, HIV(-) and quite healthy. Attractive, professional seeks same, prefer GWM but not exclusively. Looking for friendship and companionship with possible monogamous relationship. I'm a top looking for a bottom. 1853

GWM, likes living large, loves good food, fun, conversation, arts. Sexy music, slow dancing, romancing. Literature, film, and our talking after. Exercise class. Bald on top, hairy everywhere else. 34, br/ gr, 250#, 5'10, cut. All races welcome. 1856

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GWM 33, 5'7, 180#, brown hair, brown eyes, professional. I am interested in the movies, theatre, dining out, walks on the beach and traveling. I am looking for friendship, fun and frolicking. Any race is wonderful 25-50. To be kind and loving are my greatest attributes. 1857

Looking for a partner not a temp. service. This GWASP, 32, 5'10, 32, 5'10, 180lbs., brown hair (on its way out), brown eyes, non-smoker, Michael Keatonesque. Cynical and brooding. Looking for a lighthearted version or myself. For long lasting relationship. Must be physically oriented and realistic about life. 1859

GWM, 30, 5'7, 150, muscular-build into working out, movies, travel. I'm looking for a honest, monogamous relationship with a GWM between 20-35. 1861

GWM, 42, 5'10, 155#. Bright, established, fit, attractive professional seeking to meet other down to earth masculine men who like themselves and love life. If you are truly honest, sincere and serious about meeting a quality guy between 30-42+. Write me today! Photo appreciated. 1862

DR. RUBY

I have fallen in love with my psychologist. She is counseling me on the abuse I encountered as a child. She does not know that I am a lesbian, and that I have these feelings for her. I cannot get her off my mind. I wish to share my feelings with her, but how can I do so without compromising her code of ethics? I have the utmost respect for her.

I'm not even sure if she's gay, but if I'm reading her signals right, it looks good for me. I would like to have more than a doctor-client relationship with her. If I would have met her anywhere other than her office, I would have no problem with expressing my feelings to her. I really love this woman. Should I wait until my therapy is completed then tell her the way I feel? Or should I move onto another therapist and then approach her with my feelings? Her counseling has been really effective. But I honestly can't help the way I feel. What should I do, I feel as if my heart is going to bust! By the way, she's 15 years older than I.

Dear In Love,

In Love with a Logically Lovely Lady

I'm really glad you decided to write me with your innermost feelings. Even Dr. Ruby knows how it is to be in love with someone and not be sure of how they feel about you. For starters, I want you to know that these feelings that you encounter are normal when dealing with a counselor or therapist. Therapists and lovers share some of the same characteristics. You share your deepest feelings and thoughts with both parties. When you begin to feel comfortable with a certain person, it's very natural to express a special love or infatuation towards them.

When speaking to a therapist friend of mine, I discovered that due to the Code of Ethics, personal-intimate relationships between professionals and clients, even after therapy is over, are forbidden due to the confidentiality and trust issues that are so very important to successful growth. Knowing that your therapist understands this, it would be wise to let her know how you truly feel about her and yourself. If you have trusted her so far with your life story, it should be safe and comfortable enough for you to discuss. You and your therapist should share a certain bond and knowing these things will help you discover the right solution.

Another part of your growth and strong bond is to possibly let her know about your sexual orientation. Your therapist is trained to accept anything told to her and deal with the situation accordingly. Whatever becomes of your situation, always remember to be brave and strong. You have already displayed true courage by going into therapy to deal with your past abuse. Take your courage a step further. Be proud of your achievements thus far. Remember that being a lesbian with a loving heart is nothing to be ashamed of.

I am so proud of you, and with your strength I know you will get through this! If you ever need to write me again, don't hesitate... just do it!

Sincerely yours, Dr. Ruby Westinghouser

Send your questions about sex, safer sex, and matters of the heart to Dr. Ruby, care of the Health Issues Taskforce, 2250 Euclid Ave., Cleveland, 44115.

GAM, 26, 5'8, 155lbs looking for an honest and loving masculine GWM 24-46 for friendship or more. No fats, feminine or drugs please. 1867

GWM seeks same for possible relationship. 6' tall, masculine, well groomed and beard, 210#. Would like to meet a mature and responsible person that likes cuddling, romantic evenings, movies, walks and travel. Honesty a must. 1872

Gay interracial couple 25/42 looking for a white male for a three way, between the ages of 18 and 25 for good times and possibly as a traveling companion. 1877

GWM, 40, 5'8, 155. Cosmic traveler seeking a metaphysically minded companion to make the journey more pleasant. I like nature, camping, photography, New Age activities, travel, animals, laughing, having fun. Will answer all. 1880

GWM, 40, 5'111⁄2, 160lbs., very blonde, blue, healthy, rated attractive to pretty, secure and coming out (needs help). Looking for a sincere relationship with 30 to 45 yrs. old, slim, well built, healthy, very attractive white male. 1883

GWM, 27, 5'11, 160, brn/hzl, fairly new to Cleveland. Just starting to get into weight lifting and the. health thing. Looking for someone with similar interests to be friends or whatever. Please no fats, femmes. No drugs, smoker or light drinker, o.k. 1890

Kind hearted GWM, 23, 5'9, 150#, bl/bl seeks sincere, attractive, physically fit man for potential romance. I am in shape, intelligent, warm, and masculine with boyish good. looks. Interests include the outdoors (walking, running, cycling), art, architecture and music. Prefer Cleveland area, non-smoker, HIV(). 1891

An attractive 19 yr. old black male seeks someone 19-21 who is interested in an interracial relationship. Looking for good times and quiet evenings. If interested please call, write and send photograph. 1894

Couple, singles, needed for discrete friendship, companionship, movies, fine food and earthy values. Oil massage; versatile 32, 5'8, 160#, hairy healthy masculine. 1897

Amherst/Lorain/Oberlin; G/W/M 45, Christian, seeks other Gay Christians and/or spiritual beings. Let's start with friendship and see what develops. 1899

Upbeat, sincere, unpretentious, sentimental, energetic, athletic, handsome GWM, 36, seeks kindred spirit for relationship founded on friendship. Enjoys running, biking, hiking, travel, and health foods. 1900

GWM, 24, 6', 36" waist, wants someone with a somewhat similar build to go out with followed by a romper room session without Miss Sally. Relationship? Only time will tell. Do give a call. Let's "hang" together. HIV-only. 1901

Rare beef, no fat. Buffed jeans, scuffed boots. 5 day week, 2 day stubble. A-minus brains, Hemingway brawn. Iron pumps, no slumps, Eau d' sweat, not Udo-Calvin. Swill Bud, sip Sauvignon. Kix Brooks, Garth Brooks, Aaron Tippin, Aaron Copland. Home runs, home walks, cool nights, hot tub, hot fires, no smokes. 36, look good, live good, good catch. Call/ write. 1016

In search of...GWM, 25-36, non-smoker, fit, lifetime friend/relationship. I'm 35, 175 lbs, clean-cut, healthy, masculine, romantic, outdoorsman, good music, travel, culture & arts. Letters preferred. 1017

GWM, 29, 165 lbs., bl/bl hairy, athletic. Hard to please, easy to squeeze, muscle men, please. 1018

Hot stud, 32, 5'8, 165#, masculine attractive, healthy horny, firm body, hair chest wants similar for discrete fun. Beard a plus photo/phone helps. 1020

GAM, 30's, 130 lbs. HIV+ and healthy. Good looking, slim, professional, sincere. Looking for new friends and possibly a relationship. Call or write and tell me about yourself. 1021

GWM, 31, bm/grn, 145#, 5'11. Educated, artsy, regular exerciser, smooth, very cute. Yes relationship, or perhaps not; meet first, then chart coarse. Seeks light hearted safe times with firm male(s) 18-40. Letters preferred. 1022

Westside GWM, 27, 210, 6'2. Looking to meet someone who is open for friendship as well as longterm relationship. Must be honest and have a funny since of humor. Hairy chest, mustache a plus! 1024

Clark Kent seeks Superman for friendship, He-Man romance. GWM, 30's, professional, diamond integrity. Lives in Metropolis, muscles of steel, confidence, kindness, manly men, of course, are requested. Impress me with your super powers. Sorry, no Lois Lanes, Lex Luthors. 1025-

Strict Cleveland dad, tall, demanding, good looking dad, early 50's seek slim young son 18-35, who needs firm control and affection from a stern disciplinarian. . 1026

Pretty boring without photos, huh. French, passionate Ph.D., 35, 6', It. brown hair/deep green eyes. Sculpted beard, handsome, mature. Body by Nautilus. Letter, photo only. 1027

GWM early 20's, blonde/blue 145lbs, Westside, into healthy lifestyle seeks in shape GW or GHM for romance, adventure and fun. I'm attractive, versatile, enjoy sex, and many other things. Call or write. 1028

Brooding intellectual, healthy GWM, 40, professional, seeks close friend and serious weight-training partner, westside. Masculine former body builder, need to rebuild after four years under illness-associated couch arrest, which has left me soft and overweight. 5'11, balding, brwn/brwn, glasses, 240 lbs, lightly hairy. Employed evenings. Gentle and caring. Love passionately Bruckner, Part, Ravel, Schnittke; Dostoyevsky, Joyce, Vidal, Styron. Amateur novelist. Love intelligent conversation over recondite subjects. Liberal thinker. Love Lynch, Jordan, Kubrick, Frears. Love ballet, rollercoasters, river rafting, lectures, hotair ballooning, great food, tender romance, and robust, vanilla sex. No drugs, smokers, please. Light drinker o.k.. Serious, masculine, likely brooding men only. 1030

I know a secluded beach were I can be alone with God or possibly a lover I have yet to meet. He will spiritual, rugged, spontaneous, fit, 25-35, with a healthy outlook and easy smile. He's not into bars. Not vogue on the outside, not vague on the inside and not afraid of the L-word. He's confident, not arrogant. Mature but goofy. Passionate and compassionate. He has many interests. He may be you. And he may be looking for me 30, 5'9", 150, with a lot in common with him. Descriptive letter and photo welcome. 1031

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Pick up a pen!? There are so many GPC Personal ads I would enjoy responding to, but, instead of jumping on what interests me, let's see ifI interest you! I am 24, 5'10, br/br, and living XX-large. Enticed to add another X?! Interests are the three M's: music, movies, and making friends with up close and personal (especially cuddly) guys who want to fill up my Summer social calender/maybe more?! 1039

Come share love and life on a wooded estate. Seeking GWM, 18-30, monogamous. No smoking, drinking, fats or fems. Rent free. Me: loving, educated, humorous, tall, slim. Please write with photo and phone number 1045

Creative, intelligent, spiritual GWM, 45, chemically-free, non-smoker professional, HIVseeks caring, tender, musical, fun-loving, mature man of substance interested in growth, friendship, monogamous relationship who's not afraid of intimacy, life or sex and likes dancing, classics, outdoors. 1046

GWM, 35, 5'11", 165. Good looking, masculine, normal. Would like to meet similar GM 30-40. Prefer response by mail. Discretion assured. 1048

I'm more than just another ad. I'm a well-adjusted gay man interested in meeting similar men, who are open to dating/relationship. I'm 35,6'2, 180lbs, blonde, professional, attractive, creative, honest, stable and sane. You should posses a variety of interests along with intelligence, passion and humor. Under 40. Sorry no curious closet case, co-dependants or television addicts. 1049

Dysfunctional Gay Cleveland: I'm single, you're to blame! GMs not married are coldhearted loners. No middleground? Intellectuals aren't fun; fun lovers are shallow; ideal combinations aren't interested. GWM: youthful 33, attractive, passionate, smart, fun, deserves someone again. Prefer GBMs. All acknowledged. No bisexuals, closets. 1057

N.E. OH-WPA 31, 5'10 170lbs, seeking friends possible workout buddy, for fun times and more. Call or write all answered. 1545

Canton, Ohio Goodlooking, muscular, in-shape, Italian disciplinarian (38, 5'10, 170, brn/brn, moustache/beard). Gives bare bottom spankings, paddlings, discipline, thorough Greek to masculine, in-shape, real men (Gay, Bi, straight). Letter, verifiable phone, revealing, front/back/face Polaroids. 1672

Frustrated GWM, 27, looking for that masculine, stable yuppie equal to share good time and bad, shopping and paying the bills. Interested in a monogamous relationship. Tired of the bar scene and being set up by friends. Need someone to workout with, enjoy sports and parties. If you think you are the only frustrated person in Canton, call me we'll talk. 1552

Youngstown area. Handsome, straight-acting college student, GWM, 20, brn/hzl, 6'1, 175, inexperienced with guys, seeks smooth, thin, good-looking guy (GWM under 23) for friendship/first relationship. Discretion is important. Please respond by mail with photo1678

GBM, 33, 5'8, 155lbs, attractive, quiet, sincere, professional who believes in commitment, love and romance. I like music, movies and quiet evenings with that special someone. I'm looking for a straight acting, good looking, slim, 25 to 33 GM for friendship and possible relationship. Honest & sincere inquiries only. 1680

O.K! We have had it! GWM and GWF (best friends) sick of neurotic, emotionally draining, selfish. elfabsorbed, living at home, parents clueless, unstable, dependent, no clue to where they are going, significant others. We are looking for real people, with real feelings, real goals and a wide variety of interests. Humor a must! Write to Benny (GWM) or Joon (GWF). Will answer all 1580

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